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    Hypothetically speaking of course, what would you do if your gut told you that a story someone was telling was a lie; and you feel that way because there are serious inconsistencies in this story and things that just don't make logical sense. And although you have said to this person you don't believe them, she sticks by her story. And although you know facts that make her story even less legitimate, she still says it is true.

    The biggest problem is that this story is hurting others you care about and you really want to somehow prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that this is indeed a lie or a HUGE exaggeration. But, in order to do that there is really only one person who could prove it is not true.... and let's say hypothetically that person is Leonie.

    What would you do? If anything.

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    I have no idea Laurie, i have been in situation like this before but i had no evidence (apart from the fact i knew so it was only my word) that she was lying to everyone. It was tough and nobody believed me cos i had no evidence, but it got sorted cos somebody else had evidence

    Hope it gets sorted soo though Laurie

    *hugs*

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    Originally posted by Laurina:
    Hypothetically speaking of course, what would you do if your gut told you that a story someone was telling was a lie; and you feel that way because there are serious inconsistencies in this story and things that just don't make logical sense. And although you have said to this person you don't believe them, she sticks by her story. And although you know facts that make her story even less legitimate, she still says it is true.

    The biggest problem is that this story is hurting others you care about and you really want to somehow prove, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that this is indeed a lie or a HUGE exaggeration. But, in order to do that there is really only one person who could prove it is not true.... and let's say hypothetically that person is Leonie.

    What would you do? If anything.
    <font size="3" face="Tempus sans ITC, Papyrus,Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">That would depend on the lie and WHO it involved.
    Normally I would be satisfied that I know (whatever it may be) to be a lie, and be chuckling to myself. But when it involves others, and it's hurting them, I'd prolly expose them. Having said that though...it would also depend on how exposing would effect the other person, the one the lie is about.
    Make damn SURE it's a lie though.
    Hypothetically of course......

    Hope that made sense...it's early here

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    That would depend on the lie and WHO it involved.
    Normally I would be satisfied that I know (whatever it may be) to be a lie, and be chuckling to myself. But when it involves others, and it's hurting them, I'd prolly expose them. Having said that though...it would also depend on how exposing would effect the other person, the one the lie is about.
    Make damn SURE it's a lie though.
    Hypothetically of course......

    Hope that made sense...it's early here[/QB]
    <font size="3" face="Tempus sans ITC, Papyrus,Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">It makes complete sense Spinner. Thank you. And thank you Hannah [img]smile.gif[/img]

    Under most circumstances, I would typically let a situation like this go, laugh at it and trust my gut feeling. But, when it effects others, and effects them deeply, my emotions get the best of me because I don't like others feeling hurt.. betrayed... and used.

    <font color="#9966FF" size="1">[ October 19, 2003 09:21 PM: Message edited by: Laurina ]</font>

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    it is indeed hard to stop that kind of thing unless you could somehow make it widely enough know that it WAS a lie because then why would the person bother to continue? *wry chuckle* I know how frustrating that kind of situation can be, especially when it becomes a "you said/they said" situation *comfs*

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    Gosh Laurie that is a difficult one. I always try to hang onto the hope that ppl who do this will eventually come unstuck with their web of lies! Until then I guess all you can do is try to reassure those being hurt that the story does not add up. I wonder also what the intent is of the storyteller?

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    Originally posted by Laurina:
    </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Tempus sans ITC, Papyrus,Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="3" face="Tempus sans ITC, Papyrus,Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">That would depend on the lie and WHO it involved.
    Normally I would be satisfied that I know (whatever it may be) to be a lie, and be chuckling to myself. But when it involves others, and it's hurting them, I'd prolly expose them. Having said that though...it would also depend on how exposing would effect the other person, the one the lie is about.
    Make damn SURE it's a lie though.
    Hypothetically of course......

    Hope that made sense...it's early here
    <font size="3" face="Tempus sans ITC, Papyrus,Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">It makes complete sense Spinner. Thank you. And thank you Hannah [img]smile.gif[/img]

    Under most circumstances, I would typically let a situation like this go, laugh at it and trust my gut feeling. But, when it effects others, and effects them deeply, my emotions get the best of me because I don't like others feeling hurt.. betrayed... and used.

    <font color="#9966FF"><font size="1">[ October 19, 2003 09:21 PM: Message edited by: Laurina ]</font></font>[/QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="3" face="Tempus sans ITC, Papyrus,Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Then I say expose them. Set the situation right and stop those that are being hurt, hurting.

    I agree with you too Barb. I like to think eventually these types (for want of a better word) do themselves in. One way or another they get caught out.....or I like to think so lol

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    i'm on an SOS posting spree... forgive!!!!


    but i agree with the last statement....

    the truth will ALWAYS be found out

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    I like to think eventually these types (for want of a better word) do themselves in. One way or another they get caught out.....or I like to think so lol
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    Yep, but there is one person I can think of that is the exception to that rule.

    Michelle

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    gee hypothetically Id love to know the story behind all this

    but yeah I would say everytime this person speaks this lie you must make it known you dont support or believe it. You cant be part of perpetuating the lie. I would like to see these people found out.. but too often than not they get to positions of power.

    do what you think is right!!

    Kat

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